Usually when forgiveness is discussed in our culture it is related to the topic of forgiving others, not holding grudges.
The magnitude of the act of forgiveness is great:
When we forgive others for past mistakes, hurts, even betrayals, we can move more fully into alignment with the present and we can find more peace, love, and contentment.And don't we all need more of those three things?
However, it is not always easy to forgive others. Especially when we have held onto a massive hurt for many years. The 'grudge' can almost become part of our identity or can justify the reason we no longer can trust/communicate with/love another person.
I am convinced that there are many roads to forgiving another, and that each person must take the path that works for him/her.
I will share two roads to forgivenss that I have taken:
1. Gratitude- What lessons did you learn from your interactions with the person who wronged you/abandoned you/ect.? Did you learn what not to do? Were there positive things about your relationship before the falling out? How can this experience make you a stronger or wiser person?
2. Separate the person you are angry into two entities: his/her human part and his/her spiritual part. Can you embrace the notion that the transgression was done by the person's Ego (or false self, or nasty human side) and NOT by his/her spirit?
The key to forgiveness is love!
Can you embrace or love the person's spirit?
Forgiving another person who has hurt you or someone you care about is not easy.
But when you reach forgiveness, there is a release, a relief, that is worth the journey.
And you are worth it.
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