What you may really need

Are you often thinking of something you might want to do, or buy or experience?

What you may really need right now may be different from you think you need.

We tend to live in constant state of "what's next?" or "I need _____(insert person/realtionship, material item, experience, ect."

Is that why it can be so hard to sit still, stay present and relaxed?

Narcissists aside, most people have a deep seated insecurity and with it, a true fear of being alone.

Why is this?
On one hand we humans are social creatures. We thrive on the energy of others. Just as we need food/water/shelter/sleep, we need and crave love.
Often this love can be given and received from other humans. That's why we marry, have children; we tend to stick together in families, clans, and communities.

However there are holes and dysfunction in many of those structures. And this fuels our hunger for more --"I need something I am not getting".
I want to make a strong point-- yes healthy, loving relationships are wonderful. They do enrich our lives. But they are not enough.

What is often missing?
Self L-O-V-E
And I don't mean you feel good about yourself because you have become a good looking person, or a smart person, a socially responsible person, a successful person, etc.

I mean LOVE
for your self, that is unconditional,
A love that holds you and rocks you and nurtures you
Even when you fall
Or fail
LOVE for your essence, your true divine beauty

We must cultivate self love.

But how?
Ask yourself this question. And you know what is true for you.
And here are a few tips to get you started:1. Connect with your purpose. What do you love, believe in, lose yourself in doing?
Do it or do more of it.
2. Strive to surround yourself only with people, places, things that make you feel good. A good friend of mine says, "Pay attention to how your feel." Your intuition guides you. If, for example violent movies or tabloids or a certain friend contribute to an uneasy feeling, make a different choice.
3. If you can and do feel the presence of a greater higher power, make time to meditate, pray, and remember...

When you begin to fall in love with your being, anything is possible.

Every day really is a blessing, my friends.
And so are you