There is a part of me that can't handle loss. Struggles with change. This part of me feels sad with the temporary nature of things. All living beings pass away. Vacations end. Babies, toddlers, children grow up and leave us. Our bodies age, losing muscle tone, elasticity and vitality. Precious moments pass.
When I am not careful I can dwell on this. Feel helpless and hopeless. What is the point? How can I be happy and at peace knowing my blessings will not last? That I have to bid them farewell and experience a million endings in this life time. Everything good that I love. Every beautiful moment.
The therapist and buddhist in me knows that this is normal for humans. To struggle with clinging to what we want (desire) and pushing away that which we do not want (aversion). And knowing that I am not alone is relieving.
Up to this point I have had far more good experiences than negative ones in my life. And that is something to celebrate. And as I reflect more deeply I recognize that in addition to the endings, life is bringing us a constant stream of new beginnings. Birth is happening every day -- new flowers are blooming, babies are entering the open arms of their parents. Our children are learning new things and finding new ways to show their independence and their unique strengths.
There are new hugs, new games of hide and seek, new recipes being cooked, new vacations being planned. Plants are growing, flowering, releasing seed to spread new life. Lonely people are finding new friends and partners, new conflicts are arising and people are learning and struggling along the way.
Every moment brings something new. And that is not sad to me. That is special. Even exciting. If I can find a way to recognize the beauty and birth that accompanies the change and loss I feel more full and more fulfilled. I can also recognize that the temporary nature of things is needed; it is necessary. Part of our human experience is to experience great pain and sorrow and fear. To have negative experiences. Trauma. We must have moment through this. Change allows us to find relief, heal and grieve. It is a blessing.
The nature of life is movement, growth and passing away. Without clinging we must appreciate and savor the experiences in which we find joy and allow it and all else to come and go. Changing. Always.
You are precious my friends.
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